Love and War - By Maverick - Personal - http://phatbowling.com/chinaman/Love_and

Ok guys. What this article is about is nothing new; it’s that love is a battlefield. Now many people look at this quote and take it completely figuratively believing that it just means that the world of love can be quite harsh, but when you actually think about it, love is a lot like war. There are winners, there are losers, and some people prosper in it, while others are quite never the same after losing that “big” one. Some might say that there is no way to compare the two. One is about the bond between two people, and the other is about whatever divides them but this article will show you exactly how similar the two are.

RECON:
In war, often the side that has the most information about the other side wins. Now nobody can tell me that they haven’t played this little game when trying to figure out if that special someone actually likes you. Everyone has at one time or another had that friend come up to you and say “so….. what do you think of (insert name of interested party)?” Nobody wants to make a complete fool of themselves in front of someone that they like so why go into a situation without having a little knowledge. The point is before you even try anything you like to feel the situation out.

THE FIRST BATTLE:
For the most part the first battle in a lengthy campaign is the “most” and “least” pivotal at the same time. I mean nobody wants to start out on a bad note, but you also don’t want to show the other side everything you got to offer. This is a lot like a first date. The first date is the time to make a first impression. I don’t care how long you have known the person or not, the first date is going to be that person’s first impression of you as their possible partner. So naturally you’d think to yourself that the first date, you need to go all out. That’s far from the truth, soldier. You don’t want them to see everything you got, because if they do, you got a month or two until they get sick and tired of the same stuff. Now I’m not saying that McDonalds and playing Playstation is a good idea either (unless that’s what they’re into, if you know a girl like this, please god tell me). Just for the most part, feel em out. See what they like and don’t like, and for the most part if all goes well strap yourself in for a wild ride.

FIGHTING IN THE TRENCHES:
Whoever said that love is a game was full of shit. For the most part it is a battle of wills. As much as you ideally think that you would never fight with a person, of course you’re going to. It’s half the fun. The point is to know when to pick and choose your battles. There is no point in fighting a battle in which you know you’re going to lose (and guys, she doesn’t always have to win,. if she cares about you, she will be willing to go through a few setbacks every now and then.) Once you’ve decided that a battle is worth fighting for, make sure so you have some sort of plan. Words, no matter how trivial they may seem to you, are easier said than taken back. Hurtful words from someone you care about are often the hardest wounds to heal.

THE PIVOTAL BATTLE:
Many wars are boiled down to its boiling point, the point at which the tide was turned and the winner started to take complete control. Every World War Two needs it D-day, and the battle of love is not an exception to this. In every relationship there is that one moment at which you can feel the tide swaying one way or another. The challenge is to decide what to do to sway it in your favor. Half the battle is knowing exactly when to strike. The answer is obviously to strike when they least expect it. The simplest gesture can mean the world to a person if it’s done at the right time. The other half of the battle is to figure out what they think you’re lacking. If they don’t think that you pay enough attention to what their saying, get them a bouquet of their favorite flowers that they mentioned in passing. Give them a back massage when they say their day has been rough. Just let it be known that they are important to you, and I hate to tell you this but diamonds (no matter how expensive) don’t do that.

THE FINAL BATTLE:
Much like a war there comes a stage in the relationship where its gotta end. Now this doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is over, just that stage. Pretty much it comes down to the point where you’re either totally willing to “liberate” your self of the constraints of the world and throw yourself completely at the person, or the opposite of freeing yourself form the tyranny of the injustices. Just make sure when you make this final push in either direction that you do so without doubt and with a clear conscious, because the slightest bit of weakness can often spell doom.

In conclusion I hope not to discourage anyone from participating in these battles. There are such things as a good war, and there are things that are worth fighting for. Just remember that you can turn your back to it and do nothing and let the world pass you by, or you can fight the good fight…..

ItsOnlyJT@aol.com

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